That happens to a lot of people. Women, especially, but others too!
In the 60's women made 59¢ to a man's $1 for comparable work; today it's up to
79¢. Progress! But there's still 20¢ to go,
And what about the fellow working for 5 years in a job only to have someone come
in from the outside at a higher salary?
It's been stereotypically "true" of women, but it applies across that board --
male and female -- the wheel that squeaks the loudest gets the grease!
Anyone... woman or no... who is less aggressive in salary negotiations because
it goes against their upbringing won't make as much money as the vocal
one. Women are generally taught to be "nice" to "avoid confrontation," and they
fear being seen as "pushy" or ''overly aggressive." That trait isn't
confined to women. What if you're not a tough negotiating guy? What
do you do?
Let's focus on women, for a moment -- but note: what we have to say to that
segment of the workplace applies to anyone who's not earning what they deserve.
Not only do they miss the immediate gain of a higher salary when they are
initially hired, but raises are often based on a percentage of current earnings.
A 22-year-old woman who accepts a $25,000 starting salary instead of negotiating
for $30,000 could lose over $500,000 by the time she reaches 60.
Equally devastating is the impact on her self-esteem, her attitude, and her
future promotions. Here's what happened to a client named Cindy. She
was a superstar in her department at the company where she had worked for five
years. She got the tough assignments, and masterfully completed them one
after another. All was going well in her job and career until one day, a
co-worker somehow obtained a list of the salaries of everyone in the department
and passed it around the office. Cindy was dumbfounded when she noticed
that a man who been hired a few months ago at her same level was earning $10,000
more than Cindy -- for doing much less work!
Cindy said, "That day, I lost all motivation for the job. After that, I
just went through the motions." She was no longer the office
superstar, and became a prime candidate for a layoff and career downfall.
Fortunately, she started working on a job search before she suffered the
consequences of the decline in her performance.
When she became a client, it took a lot of work to overcome her reluctance to
ask for what she's worth. We told her that by developing their negotiating
skills, women not only get more money, but they also tend to get more respect.
Often, their work is valued more than when they just accept whatever is offered.
Here's what we recommended to Cindy-and anyone else who is a "patsy" when if
comes to negotiations.
First, realize two things:
One: negotiating well doesn't equal being "pushy" and "obnoxious." It's
Two: it’s the employer’s job to start with a low ball. That’s how
free enterprise works, so don’t take it personally. It’s business.
Second, do your homework to find out what people are getting paid for the kind
of position you are seeking.
Third, study the rules of salary negotiations (Jack Chapman's book, "Negotiating
Your Salary: How to Make $1,000 a Minute" is nationally recognized as a
"bible" for job hunters). Develop your responses to employer salary
Fourth, practice with a friend, family member, or career coach so that you
anchor your new responses and the new behavior in your body.
Although Cindy nearly had an apoplexy when we first practiced being a more
"aggressive" negotiator, she did quite well. Based in part on her
research, we suggested that she push hard for more money and certain benefits
Cindy protested, "But I've never done such a thing. Aren't I being
ungrateful? What if they get mad at me and rescind their offer?"
She was floored when they agreed to a $5,000 signing bonus, tuition
reimbursement, and starting pay of $10,000 above their initial offer.
Like many women, Cindy found that she can win the salary negotiations game.